DUMP THOSE WHO
DON’T ADD
VALUE TO YOUR
LIFE!!
Copyright James F. Coyle 2016
MESSAGE FROM THE AUTHOR:
Most older people have learnt how to handle pests but younger people
have usually not learnt this skill. So to get through to the young ones I have
used fairly expressive language to impact their consciousness. This is not
intended to offend more mature adults.
The world is full of pests….. and they
mentally drain you.
They leave you feeling confused, irritable and at a loss as to what to
do.
We have all had contact with this type of person.
Many of them simply refuse to develop a life of their own….. they want
to infest your life…. like a human cockroach!
They are continually hanging around wanting this….. and wanting that….
and no matter how much annoyance you display they simply don’t get the message.
They try to encroach on your circle of friends and go on to annoy them
also. For which you get the blame for ‘introducing’ this character into your
circle.
Do you know anyone like this? Of
course you do!
I regard these individuals as professional bludgers and will have
nothing to do with them.
They add absolutely nothing to your life….. except large doses of
frustration and annoyance.
So, what can you do?
Simple! Gently ease them out of your life and one of the best ways to do
this is by becoming unreliable (as far as they are concerned).
So you tell them you will meet them at a specific time at a coffee shop
(or whatever) downtown and simply fail to turn up. You’ll probably need to turn
your mobile phone off for a couple of hours so they can’t ring and pester you.
When they confront you about it you can easily say “I forgot” or better
still tell them you thought the meeting was tomorrow….. not today.
Do this to them half a dozen times and guess what? They’ll consider you too unreliable to bother
with and wander off to pester someone else.
It works! I’ve been doing it for years.
Also, if you can catch them out telling you an untruth (a lie) you can
confront them and tell them straight out that you don’t appreciate dishonest
people. From that point on you will become extremely “cool” towards them and
hopefully they will get the message.
Absolutely stop inviting them around to your place and if they should
turn up uninvited tell them you are too busy to see them. Tell them to come
back tomorrow at midday when you will be free. Except of course at 11.30am tomorrow you will disappear downtown for a lunch
with genuine friends.
If they later ask where you were tell them some close friends rang you
and invited you to lunch so you went. Unfortunately you forgot your mobile
phone and left it at home. (Well, that’s your story anyway).
Even the thickest of bludgers will get the message after a while and go
elsewhere, which is what you want to happen anyway.
Of course you could sidestep all this by simply confronting them and
telling them quite clearly that they are not your kind of person and you can’t
see any value of having a social relationship with them, but most individuals
don’t feel comfortable with this type of confrontation.
Believe me, when you reach my age (76 last June) you will have no
hesitation at all in telling these characters to “piss off”.
Many of these mentally draining situations will occur among extended
family members where you will find it hard to ignore these types. In this case
by far the best way to discourage them is to become totally unreliable. If they
still persist you can always ask them politely …… “excuse me my friend, but have you ever considered getting a life of
your own?” Then give them a long
hard look without saying anything and wait for their answer. If they ask what
you mean say….. “Well it’s a simple
question. You do understand English don’t you?” At this point give them
another hard look and if they make a further comment “snort” in disgust and
turn around and walk away. (Or pretend to answer your mobile phone while
walking away).
These are techniques that actually work!
I should know….. I’ve used them all.
The point is you want these mentally draining cretins out of your life
and as you’ve read this far into this simple report you are probably looking
for serious removal techniques.
Of course there are those who respond by trying to make you feel
guilty. Simply laugh at them. These sort
of people hate being laughed at. One trick I’ve used is this: I tell them that ever since I became a
born-again Christian I am totally free from guilt and I don’t really want to
associate with people who are “un-pure” and who haven’t yet been saved. I then ask if they would like to
accompany me to my church on Sunday where I will arrange for them to be
“saved”. Most of them run a mile real
quick!
One woman actually said to me….. “but
I’ve already been saved”.
My response here was….. “Yes, but
have you been saved from continually annoying other people?”
Then I turned around and walked away.
Overall the bottom line is to give these annoying individuals the “cold
shoulder” and it’s absolutely vital that you maintain this stance until they
fade away. Under no circumstances exhibit any “friendliness” towards them
otherwise you will negate all your efforts so far.
If you don’t feel you can handle the techniques I’ve explained above
then welcome to a life of misery and manipulation!
It’s all over to you.
Either stand up for yourself….. or lie down and accept a life of garbage and
annoying mind-numbing crap!
Good luck!
James
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